Salam abahbaru,<br /><br />Saya ada terbaca masalah seperti isteri anda di sini.<br /><br /><a href="http://breastfeeding.blog.motherwear.com/2008/06/index.html" target="_blank">http://breastfeeding.blog.motherwear.com/2008/06/index.html</a><br /><br />sorry this is my first time posting. Tak berapa pandai nak buat link. Hope it works.

Link tadi did not work.

Ni, I copy paste the article from the website.


When breastfeeding causes bad feelings: Dysphoric Milk Ejection Reflex.
Today I'm pleased to bring you an email interview with Alia Macrina Heise. Alia is a mother of three who lives in the Finger Lakes region of New York. She is a WIC breastfeeding counselor, a postpartum doula and a certified lactation counselor in private practice.

Alia has been working with a team of physicians and lactation consultants to identify a problem recently termed Dsyphoric Milk Ejection Reflex, or D-MER. She runs the website, DMER.org.

What is D-MER?

The official definition of D-MER (Dysphoric Milk Ejection Reflex) is a newly recognized condition causing a brief surge of dysphoria, or negative emotions, that peak before the milk ejection reflex, or letdown, in a lactating woman and then dissipates quickly after the milk release.


But put more casually, what a mother with D-MER experiences is a wave of unpleasurable emotion that hits when she begins to breastfeed and then fades a few minutes later. The feeling varies for each D-MER mother to some degree but can include a sinking feeling in her stomach, a feeling of hollowness, anxiety, panic, sadness, restlessness and self disgust. This wave of feelings corresponds with her release of milk, but many mothers don’t make that connection. There are three reasons for this: Firstly, because the mother also has the feelings with spontaneous releases when she is not breastfeeding; secondly, because not all mothers feel a letdown tingle in their breasts to connect the emotion with letdown and thirdly, because the emotional overload happens just prior to milk release, making it something that is not always easily connected for some mothers.
What was your experience with D-MER?

I began experiencing what is now known as D-MER when my third baby was born almost a year ago. I did not experience the same reaction to letdown with my first two babies. As a lactation counselor it seemed to me that there ought to be information somewhere on such a phenomenon, but I could not find any. I did find however, within about one month’s time, about 100 other mothers who experienced the same thing and they had all thought they were alone in their experience. So I sought out the more qualified lactation professionals to help me investigate D-MER and since then D-MER has gained a large amount of attention and is continuing to gain recognition.

How common is D-MER?

It seems that it is more common than anyone would have guessed. We are finding is that this is one of breastfeeding’s best kept secrets. Women have been embarrassed, fearful and self conscious about bringing up the negative emotions they feel while breastfeeding, even to their best friend or mother. This is because there is a strong message that breastfeeding feels 100% pleasurable, even warm and fuzzy, and so a mother who experiences the exact opposite, things like guilt, anger, irritation, hopelessness and dread, feels very much like a “freak” and a “weirdo.”

What is known about the causes of D-MER?

We have come very far in a short amount of time, but we surely haven’t come far enough in terms of knowing what the exact mechanism of D-MER is. We probably know 1000 things or more that aren’t the cause of D-MER and that brings us that much closer to finding out what is. Oxytocin is involved, but not as the culprit, more as the messenger. We can know this because mothers experience D-MER before a letdown, probably about the same time oxytocin is being released in the brain. The rest of the puzzle will be figuring out the other parts of the hormonal milieu involved. Prolactin, dopamine, the pituitary, the amygdala and others are all being investigated.

Does D-MER go away?

It can self-correct, but that varies from mother to mother. For mothers with mild D-MER it is likely to self-correct around the third month. For severe D-MER it often won’t self correct until well after the first year, or sometimes not until weaning.

Where can mothers get more information about D-MER?
D-MER.org is the largest source for D-MER support at this time, as D-MER is still gaining recognition. Not only does it contain comprehensive information about D-MER, but it has quotes from other mothers, informational handouts available for download, a forum dedicated to D-MER, a survey for mothers who have experienced D-MER to take to help with the investigation of D-MER, and a lot more.

haaa..abahbaru, that the actual name of that sort of baby blues yg i kata i read dlm buku tu. ade cases where moms menangis tak pasal time BF, ade yg marah..ade yg rasa takut.

its D-MER!

TQ mamamaryam

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Disclaimer: I am not a medical doctor. All of the posting on this website & my blog were written by me for educational purposes, but are not meant to diagnose or treat any medical disorders. http://boobiesmommies101.blogspot.com/

yes.. this is what i've been experiencing! dari anak first lagi Quote:

saya ingatkan semua mommies pun rasa camtu.. rupanya tak semua ya.. betul, lah.. saya tau yang saya akan dapat let-dwon reflex bila tiba2 aje sy rasa down/depressed/x sedap hati...

tapi saya rasa D-MER ni lain drp kes wife abahbaru... sebab the feeling akan hilang sebaik sahaja let down refelx tu dtg.. pastu automatik hilang n rasa lega semacam...

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I see.. thanks for the explanation

X sure la my wife mampu bertahan ke tak.. awal2 dulu, we thought it's normal and it will get better so we did nothing about it.

Even now Im not sure what to do yet.. Today she's been fighting the feeling and managed to pump every 3-4 hours, but dont know how long she will last without external help

Thanks Mamama.. almost exactly mcm yg my wife describe

Finally jumpa jugak more info pasal penyakit ni..

Thanx again

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Betul tu.. my wife lepas pump pun still ada feeling tu.. kalau masa tengah pump bleh nampak riak muka dia berubah cam ada masalah

maksudnya lagi kronik la nihh

Tp so far dia bleh bertahan lagi alhamdulillah

jgn la kata kronik, nnt lagi risau pula ur wife..terus depress lak nnt..

i think kalau camni, better mintak ref to specialist.

might be baby blues, baby blues sometimes goes away after a while..but sometimes mmg kena jumpa specialist. we all cant do much here but share exp & doakan the best for ur wife..

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Disclaimer: I am not a medical doctor. All of the posting on this website & my blog were written by me for educational purposes, but are not meant to diagnose or treat any medical disorders. http://boobiesmommies101.blogspot.com/

Hehe.. xde lah cakap kat dia yg masalah tu kronik

tu la ingat nak gi jumpa Dr or LC, or kalau mmg xmampu then terpaksa la stop bfeed.. mungkin xde rezeki baby..

Papepun akan cuba usaha dulu..

Thanx to ibu-ibu semua

abahbaru.. sori smlm bz xsmpt nk komen..

i bukan LC hehehe tp thru my own exp, i almost got sume blues2 nih.. tp mild aje la sbb i bleh overcome sdr.. wat i did ialah.. hehehehe xpenah cite before nih.. time dlm confinement dulu.. i slalu rasa pelik mcm sakit hati jiwa kacau everytime nk susukn baby; due to byk factor la time tu... tp mmg i notice i akan rasa xsedap hati.. susah hati nk nangis nk marah.. nk express pon mcm tu gak.. everytime nk susu baby musti i pandang muka papi dgn muka 'selamatkn aku dr api neraka' serius xtipu.. tp end up.. i ckp "papi! air!!!" idea nk air tu naturally dtg sbb i ade theory if kite gelabah nk cool down minum la air.. (sukati aku aje..).. amazingly it works walaupon mak bebel sbb dlm pantang tp minum air sekolam..

sammy pon dh reach 6mths... alhamdulillah perasaan tu dh go away slowly tp mmg dh jadik habit plak everytime susu musti haus..

spt kata sume mommies kt sini.. seek for specialist/LC but then bleh gak cuba2 switch mind bile nk susu/express.. create satu alasan.. instead.. bile 'aku susu aku depress' jadikkn 'aku susu aku haus' (cth la )

anyway; semoga wife abahbaru dpt overcome prob nih..